How Can We Transform Fear?

Holistic medical doctor and bestselling author Roy Martina, M.D., offers his tips for how to move past self-sabotaging thoughts and find your Divine Essence.

Recently I gave a webinar called ‘Simple Spirituality’ where I spoke about how to tap into your real self and bring spirituality into your life on a daily basis. Before the webinar, we received hundreds of questions from listeners wanting to know how to solve ongoing issues they had with self-belief and self-sabotage. I received this question from one woman on the webinar, which I thought was such a great example of what so many people ask me in my workshops, I thought I would share her question and my reply with you here.

QUESTION:

How can we face the fear in a positive way?

ROY’S REPLY:

To face fear is easy when you have the right knowledge.

What is fear? There is a nice acronym: False Expectations Appearing Real. There are things to be afraid of: an escaped tiger, venomous snakes and so on. So fear is not good or bad, we need to be able to discern what are the things to be afraid of.
Fear gives us wings: we attack or run or sometimes we get paralyzed. That is a natural and positive reaction. But most things we fear are not real. We fear public speaking, we have social fears: fear of rejection, of confrontation, fears of failure. Those are conditioned fears, because we are conditioned to suppress our emotions and we were led to believe that we are responsible for how others feel.

Step 1 is the most difficult one:

• Not to care anymore about what people think or say.
• To start with seeing criticism as what it is, someone else’s often ignorant or uninformed way of expressing their opinions. In a democratic country there is freedom of speech. If people would only say intelligent things or at least think about what they are saying, this planet would be a nice place. But people vent their own frustrations and project their inner turmoil and unresolved issues onto others. We all do that. We project what is unresolved from our past on the screen of our reality. So, if we believe that we are not good enough, we think that confident people are arrogant.
  When you master step 1 you will no longer care about what others think but you will just respect the fact that they are allowed to think what they want and that all their thinking is based on their past issues. In doing so, you are becoming more free.

Step 2 is to understand that fear is a friend and tells you that it is time to go inside and find the courage, the twin brother of fear. So, fear tells me that courage is never far away. I just need to allow it to come and in order to do that I need to go back to step 1. Once I do not care about opinions, I am free to express mine, because, who cares? Those that do care, react from their past anyway. I may trigger a reaction for which I will face the consequences.

The man that is not afraid of criticism is the man that will grow the most, because he will listen carefully to find the diamonds in the words of others and learn from that.

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Roy Martina is a holistic medical doctor with over 30 years experience helping people tap into their true selves and “cure the incurable” by understanding the connection between emotional balance and dis-ease. He is the author of over 40 books in Dutch and other languages. His bestselling book Emotional Balance: the path to inner peace and harmony has just been translated into English, and published by Hay House Publishers.

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