How can I enjoy each day without being fearful of the future?

When we have fears towards the future it really means we have doubts about our capacity to take care of ourselves. We look at the current situations and translate our challenges into possible failure. This creates anticipation-angst. We are getting stressed out by things that have not happened yet. This is a habitual pattern which means that you have formed synapses in your brain that keep you in this thinking mode. You are like a train that is stuck on the rails and cannot turn to another path. So the way to change is to train your mind. There are several ways to do it, but I will teach my favorite technique.

Every night before you go to sleep you take 10 minutes before going in your bed (do this in a relax chair but not in your bed) and start to evaluate your day scanning for moments that you were in this habitual pattern again. As soon as you find an incident you will pretend it is like a movie fragment that you can edit. You ask yourself: how would I react differently if I were in my power? Then you relive the scene again but now like you would if you were in your power, having positive pleasant thoughts and feelings of your future. You do this for at least 3-4 incidents every day before going to sleep. What you are doing in reality, you are building new pathways in your brain (new synapses) that will allow you to react differently in the future as soon as you have build up enough of these synapses. It is the same like learning to drive a car or swimming. When you start out you have zero synapses and as you keep on training yourself you build more synapse until you develop what is called auto-pilot. Now things happen without effort; without thinking and you have created new habitual patterns that support you.

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Roy Martina is a holistic medical doctor with over 30 years experience helping people tap into their true selves and “cure the incurable” by understanding the connection between emotional balance and dis-ease. He is the author of over 40 books in Dutch and other languages. His bestselling book Emotional Balance: the path to inner peace and harmony has just been translated into English, and published by Hay House Publishers.

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Divine Worth with Author Kimberly Coots

Today I have the great pleasure of being the host on Day 2 of the Virtual Blog Tour of author Kimberly Coots whose book DIVINE WORTH – Break the Bonds of Unworthiness and Create the Life You Desire! launches on Amazon on Tuesday May 24, 2011.

Author Kimberly Ann Coots is a transformational life coach, business development coach and speaker. Her passion is to help shift humanity’s consciousness from fear, lack and separation, to love, connection and abundance. Through her coaching, courses, speaking and books, Kimberly is a guide to transforming unworthiness conditioning, stepping into your power and living a life you love. She is certified in many holistic and spiritual modalities. She has been ordained as a Spiritual Peace Minister by James Twyman, is a certified Reconnection Healer by Dr. Eric Pearl and is a Facilitator for the Seminary of Spiritual Peacemaking. As a successful business development specialist, Kimberly also helps entrepreneurs make a profit and a difference.

Yesterday, Kimberly visited Andrea Hylen at http://wp.me/p19NWq-3z where they talked about feelings, our beliefs, unworthiness, feeling our worth and shifting to more compassion.

Today, I’d like to share with you a recent interview I had with Kimberly when I got to ask her some questions on looking internally rather than externally, forgiveness and beyond feeling the pain of truth. I hope you enjoy it.

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Roy Martina: Why is it so important to look internally rather than externally?

Kimberly Coots: Seeking fulfilment externally keeps you stuck in the small self (or ego).  The small self is constantly chasing the things externally that appears will fulfil you, but this fulfilment is only temporary and is essentially an illusion.  This external pursuit of “getting and having” resonates with a “lack” consciousness, causing feelings of separation, dis-connection, dis-content and fear.

Looking within creates the awareness of your gifts and your passions.  Using the vehicle of passion to share your gifts creates unconditional joy and fulfilment for yourself (that is not dependent upon anything you have to have), as well as makes a positive impact in the world. For example, in my writing of my book “Divine Worth”, I’m engaging in my passion of writing, sharing my gifts of joy, fulfilment and worthiness, and making a positive impact in the world.  This resonates with “abundance” consciousness – creating joy and fulfilment for myself and others.

In short – the importance of looking within rather than externally is the difference between conditional (temporary) fulfilment and unconditional (lasting) fulfilment.

Roy Martina: What is the importance of forgiveness in oneself in order to move forward?

Kimberly Coots: When you hold a grievance toward yourself, you limit your connection with your heart space– your true power.  If you’re not centered in your heart space, you are probably not engaged with your passions and sharing your gifts, which create true joy and fulfilment.

Grievances resonate with blame, shame and/or guilt, and these energies foster beliefs of unworthiness, such as, “I’m not worthy of being happy or receiving what I desire because I am bad”.  You may sabotage your own happiness because you don’t believe you deserve to be happy.

Unforgiveness of oneself masks the truth of what you really are – the divine energy/essence of Creator.  Forgiveness is releasing the grievances that keep your energy stuck so that you can live a life that you love and deserve, and give yourself permission to claim the love and essence that you really are.

Roy Martina: How can one move beyond feeling the pain of truth that is hard to deal with?

Kimberly Coots: In my personal experience, it is in having the courage to ask myself what this pain is teaching me.  “What am I learning about myself and life through this pain?  How is this pain working in my highest good?  What do I choose for myself next?”

Remembering that you are the divine essence and energy of Creator, not a personality, also helps you to see the truth from a higher perspective that supports you in moving beyond the pain.

Another way is to practice embracing everything: the good, the bad and the in-between.  Everything is helping us to experience the grandeur of what we really are, even if the small self (ego) doesn’t understand this.  The small self-judges and measures everything as good or bad.  The heart knows that there is no good or bad – it is all helping us discover our divine greatness.

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I hope you enjoyed this interview with Kimberly Coots and that you’ll check out her book DIVINE WORTH – Break the Bonds of Unworthiness and Create the Life You Desire! at http://divineworth.com/book-launch/pages/pre-launch.html

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Thanks for reading! As usual, please feel free to share your comments and thoughts below. I love reading your feedback.

AND… be sure to follow Kimberly tomorrow when the next stop on the Virtual Blog Tour is Andrew Mondia, who will be interviewing Kimberly on meaning of divine worth, finding one’s own worth and Kimberly’s inspiration for writing the book. To visit that “stop” on the tour, go to http://www.andyinspire.com/general/divine-worth-with-kimberly-coots/

How Can We Transform Fear?

Holistic medical doctor and bestselling author Roy Martina, M.D., offers his tips for how to move past self-sabotaging thoughts and find your Divine Essence.

Recently I gave a webinar called ‘Simple Spirituality’ where I spoke about how to tap into your real self and bring spirituality into your life on a daily basis. Before the webinar, we received hundreds of questions from listeners wanting to know how to solve ongoing issues they had with self-belief and self-sabotage. I received this question from one woman on the webinar, which I thought was such a great example of what so many people ask me in my workshops, I thought I would share her question and my reply with you here.

QUESTION:

How can we face the fear in a positive way?

ROY’S REPLY:

To face fear is easy when you have the right knowledge.

What is fear? There is a nice acronym: False Expectations Appearing Real. There are things to be afraid of: an escaped tiger, venomous snakes and so on. So fear is not good or bad, we need to be able to discern what are the things to be afraid of.
Fear gives us wings: we attack or run or sometimes we get paralyzed. That is a natural and positive reaction. But most things we fear are not real. We fear public speaking, we have social fears: fear of rejection, of confrontation, fears of failure. Those are conditioned fears, because we are conditioned to suppress our emotions and we were led to believe that we are responsible for how others feel.

Step 1 is the most difficult one:

• Not to care anymore about what people think or say.
• To start with seeing criticism as what it is, someone else’s often ignorant or uninformed way of expressing their opinions. In a democratic country there is freedom of speech. If people would only say intelligent things or at least think about what they are saying, this planet would be a nice place. But people vent their own frustrations and project their inner turmoil and unresolved issues onto others. We all do that. We project what is unresolved from our past on the screen of our reality. So, if we believe that we are not good enough, we think that confident people are arrogant.
  When you master step 1 you will no longer care about what others think but you will just respect the fact that they are allowed to think what they want and that all their thinking is based on their past issues. In doing so, you are becoming more free.

Step 2 is to understand that fear is a friend and tells you that it is time to go inside and find the courage, the twin brother of fear. So, fear tells me that courage is never far away. I just need to allow it to come and in order to do that I need to go back to step 1. Once I do not care about opinions, I am free to express mine, because, who cares? Those that do care, react from their past anyway. I may trigger a reaction for which I will face the consequences.

The man that is not afraid of criticism is the man that will grow the most, because he will listen carefully to find the diamonds in the words of others and learn from that.

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Roy Martina is a holistic medical doctor with over 30 years experience helping people tap into their true selves and “cure the incurable” by understanding the connection between emotional balance and dis-ease. He is the author of over 40 books in Dutch and other languages. His bestselling book Emotional Balance: the path to inner peace and harmony has just been translated into English, and published by Hay House Publishers.

The book is coming to Amazon on March 15, 2011.

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