Love, Relationships and Success – How to Have them All

In life we have people who can do several things great at the same time and others who do not do so well. In order to juggle a loving relationship and career depends on many factors. The biggest factor is the needs of the 2 individuals and what they came to learn in that relationship.

There are some basic needs that will be incompatible with what you can deliver. Let’s say that your partners definition of a loving relationship is to walk in parks with the dogs and sit in front of the fireplace sharing the stories of the day and you take your work home or are to stressed out to relax, that will not work. So all depends on the expectations and needs of yourself and your partner. Some basic needs are approval, appreciation, care, respect, trust, admiration, encouragement to name a few. Many people think that the fulfilment of their basic needs should be done by their partner.

Then the next big thing is why you are in a relationship: for love, companionship, growth, sex, attention, friendship, etc. Some partners are great; they will have their own thing and can even be of support. Other partners will whine, complain and demand attention. So it is about what you want and what kind of partner you have. What is really important to you?  Be upfront and let the person you are starting to date know that you are a workaholic; that your career is important and that you are not giving that up. That is called expectation management up front. So they know what to expect of you.

Then you have to compromise and make agreements. What is important for the other?  How do you find common ground? Now you are building a solid foundation for a loving relationship. Enjoy and good luck!

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Roy Martina is a holistic medical doctor with over 30 years experience helping people tap into their true selves and “cure the incurable” by understanding the connection between emotional balance and dis-ease. He is the author of over 40 books in Dutch and other languages. His bestselling book Emotional Balance: the path to inner peace and harmony has just been translated into English, and published by Hay House Publishers.

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Definition of Love in a Love Relationship

First we need to know why we want relationships. Most people want relationships based on unfulfilled needs. We have needs of being loved, companionship, friendship, respect, caring, trusting, admiration, appreciation, and much more. Because we are emotionally not mature we seek outside of ourselves what is in our selves. Of course there is a biological need for relationship and procreation.  We fall on love based instincts programmed in our DNA.

Then there is the spiritual aspect of relationship, we attract on soul level the people that will help us to resolve unresolved issues of the past. They will help us to grow and become more mature. So if you want a definition of love it depends on which level you are seeking the definition. If you are seeking it from a spiritual stand point of view it is to create the safe environment where you and the loved one can explore who they are without being afraid of rejection.  In that safe environment grow and heal all the emotional wounds from the past to become strong loving persons with a positive self-esteem.  Being able to love themselves and love others without fear of losing one another. When the relationship fulfills this promise the need of the relationship will diminish and be replaced from the need of intimacy where we explore each other on deeper levels of authenticity.  We can be 100% ourselves without fear of being judged for any of our thoughts or behavior.

True love is starting with accepting ourselves just the way we are. That is the portal to accept and love the other just the way they are without judgment and without the wish to change them in anyway; understanding that our happiness is not lying in the hands of the other but lies in the discovery of how to connect with our own pure essence of love. So relationship is a journey with a companion that holds up the mirror for us and us for them.

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Roy Martina is a holistic medical doctor with over 30 years’ experience helping people tap into their true selves and “cure the incurable” by understanding the connection between emotional balance and dis-ease. He is the author of over 40 books in Dutch and other languages. His bestselling book Emotional Balance: the path to inner peace and harmony has just been translated into English, and published by Hay House Publishers.

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