What is Emotional Imbalance? Emotions and Dis-Ease

Emotional Imbalance is when we are not connected to our true essence or higher self.  Emotional Balance is the set of skills one has to achieve the state of Equanimity (love, peace , harmony etc).

Emotional Imbalance can be divided in 3 stages:

1. Acute Stage
2. Processing state
3. Resolved state or unresolved state.

In the acute stage we are in the middle of the emotions and we have to deal with them or we allow ourselves to be overcome by them. We can choose to:

1. Deal with them right away and transform, release or express them or
2. We can suppress them or park them for dealing with them later. Ignoring them or pretending nothing is happening is also a way of suppressing.

If we have the right techniques as taught in my book Emotional Balance we can deal with our emotions right away and accept , process and transform them. If we don’t we can suppress or park them.  Parking meets you will deal with them later for example when you are calmed down and see things better. Some people park them and never return to them. All that you suppress will have detrimental effect on your energy balance and will sooner or later become a source of dis-ease in your body or mind. So if you have a lot of suppressed aggression you become passive aggressive or sarcastic. If you have suppressed fear you become insecure in certain situations, etc. It can also affect you on a physical level as your energy system may be disturbed and affect your organs, your immune system or your endocrinal imbalance. Most chronic disease start out as an energetic or emotional imbalance. So it is best to learn how to process your unresolved emotions. Then you resolve the emotional imbalance and healing is the result. That would be the most preferred state.

How can I enjoy each day without being fearful of the future?

When we have fears towards the future it really means we have doubts about our capacity to take care of ourselves. We look at the current situations and translate our challenges into possible failure. This creates anticipation-angst. We are getting stressed out by things that have not happened yet. This is a habitual pattern which means that you have formed synapses in your brain that keep you in this thinking mode. You are like a train that is stuck on the rails and cannot turn to another path. So the way to change is to train your mind. There are several ways to do it, but I will teach my favorite technique.

Every night before you go to sleep you take 10 minutes before going in your bed (do this in a relax chair but not in your bed) and start to evaluate your day scanning for moments that you were in this habitual pattern again. As soon as you find an incident you will pretend it is like a movie fragment that you can edit. You ask yourself: how would I react differently if I were in my power? Then you relive the scene again but now like you would if you were in your power, having positive pleasant thoughts and feelings of your future. You do this for at least 3-4 incidents every day before going to sleep. What you are doing in reality, you are building new pathways in your brain (new synapses) that will allow you to react differently in the future as soon as you have build up enough of these synapses. It is the same like learning to drive a car or swimming. When you start out you have zero synapses and as you keep on training yourself you build more synapse until you develop what is called auto-pilot. Now things happen without effort; without thinking and you have created new habitual patterns that support you.

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Roy Martina is a holistic medical doctor with over 30 years experience helping people tap into their true selves and “cure the incurable” by understanding the connection between emotional balance and dis-ease. He is the author of over 40 books in Dutch and other languages. His bestselling book Emotional Balance: the path to inner peace and harmony has just been translated into English, and published by Hay House Publishers.

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Definition of Love in a Love Relationship

First we need to know why we want relationships. Most people want relationships based on unfulfilled needs. We have needs of being loved, companionship, friendship, respect, caring, trusting, admiration, appreciation, and much more. Because we are emotionally not mature we seek outside of ourselves what is in our selves. Of course there is a biological need for relationship and procreation.  We fall on love based instincts programmed in our DNA.

Then there is the spiritual aspect of relationship, we attract on soul level the people that will help us to resolve unresolved issues of the past. They will help us to grow and become more mature. So if you want a definition of love it depends on which level you are seeking the definition. If you are seeking it from a spiritual stand point of view it is to create the safe environment where you and the loved one can explore who they are without being afraid of rejection.  In that safe environment grow and heal all the emotional wounds from the past to become strong loving persons with a positive self-esteem.  Being able to love themselves and love others without fear of losing one another. When the relationship fulfills this promise the need of the relationship will diminish and be replaced from the need of intimacy where we explore each other on deeper levels of authenticity.  We can be 100% ourselves without fear of being judged for any of our thoughts or behavior.

True love is starting with accepting ourselves just the way we are. That is the portal to accept and love the other just the way they are without judgment and without the wish to change them in anyway; understanding that our happiness is not lying in the hands of the other but lies in the discovery of how to connect with our own pure essence of love. So relationship is a journey with a companion that holds up the mirror for us and us for them.

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Roy Martina is a holistic medical doctor with over 30 years’ experience helping people tap into their true selves and “cure the incurable” by understanding the connection between emotional balance and dis-ease. He is the author of over 40 books in Dutch and other languages. His bestselling book Emotional Balance: the path to inner peace and harmony has just been translated into English, and published by Hay House Publishers.

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- June 18, The Power of Imagination, one-day workshop – London, UK http://bit.ly/eHj2Vt

- 28 July – 12 August. Summer Camp 2011: The 7th Sense – Veldhoven, The Netherlands http://bit.ly/jXCk6L

How to Continue the Path to be in Peace with Inner Self?

To be at peace with your inner self is to be aligned with yourself. There is no inner and outer self.  There is only you. You are an immortal spirit and you came to this 3 dimensional duality material time space continuum to play games. When you came in to the body you got seduced by the intensity of the experience of the 5 sensory input channels.

This rich bombardment of information got you so focused that after a while you forgot who you are. You start to believe you are a human being with an immortal part and you start seeking to find the path to your spirituality. So you start to look everywhere outside of you but there is no outside. Everything happens inside of you. All your perceptions of the world are projected inside of your brains, as long as you use your senses you will be fooled.

The trick is to bypass your mind (brain), your senses and turn inward. All the peace, all the happiness, all the wealth is inside of you that is who you are. You can never find yourself outside. There are many things you can do to go inside: meditate, yoga, Qi-Gong, listen to music, watch the sunset, walk in nature, look into a baby’s eyes, etc.

Everywhere you will find mirrors of you. Here is the most important thing I can tell you.  The one and only secret that changes everything and took me 57 years to discover; you are the expression of love (spirit).  You are love and cannot be anything else than love. To find peace you need to stay connected to that love that is you. Anything that takes you away from that inner vibration with love is distraction and you have to become aware when you are distracted.  People can distract you, financial needs, stress, worries, and emotions are all distractions. Your only job is to find a way back to that feeling of pure love.

So that is your first task; stay connected with that essence of love no matter what happens in life than you are way ahead of the crowd no matter how long you have been seeking peace. Because peace is the alignment with yourself and knowing that all is perfect just the way it is.   You are an immortal having a mortal experience.

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Roy Martina is a holistic medical doctor with over 30 years’ experience helping people tap into their true selves and “cure the incurable” by understanding the connection between emotional balance and dis-ease. He is the author of over 40 books in Dutch and other languages. His bestselling book Emotional Balance: the path to inner peace and harmony has just been translated into English, and published by Hay House Publishers.

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- June 18, The Power of Imagination, one-day workshop – London, UK http://bit.ly/eHj2Vt

- 28 July – 12 August. Summer Camp 2011: The 7th Sense – Veldhoven, The Netherlands http://bit.ly/jXCk6L

What is Karma and How does it Affect Us?

Karma is one of my favorite subjects because it so often misunderstood. Many people speak about karma as a bad thing. Some others divide karma in good and bad karma.

In my humble opinion it is nothing of that.  There is no good or bad karma. There is just karma.

Let’s go to the meaning of the word karma (Sanskrit): consequences of your actions or if I would translate:”the consequences of your choices.” You have 2 possibilities to make choices: ignorant or with wisdom. Let’s take an example: some people do good things because they are afraid of not getting in heaven or go to hell. So their choices are based on ignorance and not wisdom. Actions out of fear are actions on survival level also referred to as ego. Other people make bad choices because they believe it is good from their perspective, for example kill or be killed.

So the law of karma is in my belief the representation of the infinite patience of the creator. You will be given infinite opportunities to get it right. That is why we have a soul. Our soul remembers all the times we acted from fear and not from our true authentic power.  The soul’s job is to create new opportunities that are similar to the original ones so we can get another chance to get it right.

Another belief about karma is that some people are punished for something they did in the past. There is not such a thing as punishment at the highest level of our essence. What it can be that we want to experience is what we have done to others so we make better choices next time. In the end it all boils down to one thing; do we make our choices based on our Authentic essence of love or do we make choices based on our human experience? In the end, life is a game and our goal is to transcend the illusion of all that we have learned on human level. Just be our true unconditional loving selves then we have finished the “karma game of life.”  The ultimate duality skill test.

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Roy Martina is a holistic medical doctor with over 30 years experience helping people tap into their true selves and “cure the incurable” by understanding the connection between emotional balance and dis-ease. He is the author of over 40 books in Dutch and other languages. His bestselling book Emotional Balance: the path to inner peace and harmony has just been translated into English, and published by Hay House Publishers.

Subscribe to this blog to receive Roy’s weekly blog entry about self-healing, self-development, holistic medicine, spirituality and to be kept informed about Roy’s upcoming online and offline events.

- May 29th, Virtualizations – Your Path to Energetic Freedom Workshop at Mind Body Spirit Festival – London, UK http://bit.ly/hfUU1b
- June 17, Get Out of you Comfort Zone evening workshop – London, UK http://bit.ly/fwaaN1
- June 18, The Power of Imagination, one-day workshop – London, UK http://bit.ly/eHj2Vt
- 28 July – 12 August. Summer Camp 2011: The 7th Sense – Veldhoven, The Netherlands http://bit.ly/jXCk6L

Divine Worth with Author Kimberly Coots

Today I have the great pleasure of being the host on Day 2 of the Virtual Blog Tour of author Kimberly Coots whose book DIVINE WORTH – Break the Bonds of Unworthiness and Create the Life You Desire! launches on Amazon on Tuesday May 24, 2011.

Author Kimberly Ann Coots is a transformational life coach, business development coach and speaker. Her passion is to help shift humanity’s consciousness from fear, lack and separation, to love, connection and abundance. Through her coaching, courses, speaking and books, Kimberly is a guide to transforming unworthiness conditioning, stepping into your power and living a life you love. She is certified in many holistic and spiritual modalities. She has been ordained as a Spiritual Peace Minister by James Twyman, is a certified Reconnection Healer by Dr. Eric Pearl and is a Facilitator for the Seminary of Spiritual Peacemaking. As a successful business development specialist, Kimberly also helps entrepreneurs make a profit and a difference.

Yesterday, Kimberly visited Andrea Hylen at http://wp.me/p19NWq-3z where they talked about feelings, our beliefs, unworthiness, feeling our worth and shifting to more compassion.

Today, I’d like to share with you a recent interview I had with Kimberly when I got to ask her some questions on looking internally rather than externally, forgiveness and beyond feeling the pain of truth. I hope you enjoy it.

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Roy Martina: Why is it so important to look internally rather than externally?

Kimberly Coots: Seeking fulfilment externally keeps you stuck in the small self (or ego).  The small self is constantly chasing the things externally that appears will fulfil you, but this fulfilment is only temporary and is essentially an illusion.  This external pursuit of “getting and having” resonates with a “lack” consciousness, causing feelings of separation, dis-connection, dis-content and fear.

Looking within creates the awareness of your gifts and your passions.  Using the vehicle of passion to share your gifts creates unconditional joy and fulfilment for yourself (that is not dependent upon anything you have to have), as well as makes a positive impact in the world. For example, in my writing of my book “Divine Worth”, I’m engaging in my passion of writing, sharing my gifts of joy, fulfilment and worthiness, and making a positive impact in the world.  This resonates with “abundance” consciousness – creating joy and fulfilment for myself and others.

In short – the importance of looking within rather than externally is the difference between conditional (temporary) fulfilment and unconditional (lasting) fulfilment.

Roy Martina: What is the importance of forgiveness in oneself in order to move forward?

Kimberly Coots: When you hold a grievance toward yourself, you limit your connection with your heart space– your true power.  If you’re not centered in your heart space, you are probably not engaged with your passions and sharing your gifts, which create true joy and fulfilment.

Grievances resonate with blame, shame and/or guilt, and these energies foster beliefs of unworthiness, such as, “I’m not worthy of being happy or receiving what I desire because I am bad”.  You may sabotage your own happiness because you don’t believe you deserve to be happy.

Unforgiveness of oneself masks the truth of what you really are – the divine energy/essence of Creator.  Forgiveness is releasing the grievances that keep your energy stuck so that you can live a life that you love and deserve, and give yourself permission to claim the love and essence that you really are.

Roy Martina: How can one move beyond feeling the pain of truth that is hard to deal with?

Kimberly Coots: In my personal experience, it is in having the courage to ask myself what this pain is teaching me.  “What am I learning about myself and life through this pain?  How is this pain working in my highest good?  What do I choose for myself next?”

Remembering that you are the divine essence and energy of Creator, not a personality, also helps you to see the truth from a higher perspective that supports you in moving beyond the pain.

Another way is to practice embracing everything: the good, the bad and the in-between.  Everything is helping us to experience the grandeur of what we really are, even if the small self (ego) doesn’t understand this.  The small self-judges and measures everything as good or bad.  The heart knows that there is no good or bad – it is all helping us discover our divine greatness.

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Thanks for reading! As usual, please feel free to share your comments and thoughts below. I love reading your feedback.

AND… be sure to follow Kimberly tomorrow when the next stop on the Virtual Blog Tour is Andrew Mondia, who will be interviewing Kimberly on meaning of divine worth, finding one’s own worth and Kimberly’s inspiration for writing the book. To visit that “stop” on the tour, go to http://www.andyinspire.com/general/divine-worth-with-kimberly-coots/

A Virtual Interview with Michael David Lawrience

Today I have the great pleasure of being the host on Day 2 of the Virtual Blog Tour of author Michael David Lawrience, whose book Emotional Health: The Secret for Freedom from Drama, Trauma, & Pain comes to Amazon as a softcover mid-June.

Michael David Lawrience is a certified Residential Coach III with over 13 years’ experience teaching teen’s self-awareness, self-esteem, and self-reliance. He has over 35 years’ experience as a holistic health practitioner with a B.A in Sacred Healing and has been a certified Bowenwork Practitioner since 2005. His niche is emotional health with extensive personal experience related to codependency recovery, strengthening self-esteem, healing the inner child, stress management, and meditation which he has practiced for over 40 years.

Yesterday, Michael visited Anne Lyken-Garner at http://www.abloggersbooks.com/2011/04/book-tour-emotional-health-secret-for.html where he talked about recognizing self-sabotage, the causes of self-sabotage, and overcoming the roots of self-sabotage .

Today, I’d like to share with you a recent interview I had with Michael when I got to ask him about the topic of his approach to heal past negative emotions, the role of meditation in emotional healing, and common misconceptions about emotional healing. I hope you enjoy it.

Roy – What is Your Approach Michael to Release Past Negative Emotions?

Michael –As you know Roy emotions that we avoid or suppress become trapped in our bodies, at the cellular level of the DNA. These can be from our own painful experiences or a carry-over from our parents DNA. One way to begin releasing these trapped emotions which also have unconscious beliefs, images, and memories attached to them at a cellular level is Energy Healing. Your “Emotional Balance” is a form of Energy Healing.

We may have no idea of the belief or emotion locked into our DNA, however, when we set our intent, surrender to Divine Grace by whatever name we call it, and allow a skilled healer to hold a sacred space for us Divine Energy flows through them to us. Miracles happen.

I have over 35 years’ experience as an Energy Healer using various methods. Since 2005 I have mostly used Bowen Therapy or as it is also called Bowenwork, which consists of light moves over muscles or tendons to stimulate the body’s natural healing ability.

I see Bowen as an energetic bodywork, which given the consciousness of the healer and the readiness of the client can heal issues on the physical, emotional, or spiritual level.

Some clients get visuals, some feel energy sensations in their bodies, others fall asleep for shorter or longer periods and wake up feeling more relaxed with stuck emotional energies in their bodies released.

In a recent session with a client, she silently set her intent. Before the session she mentioned very low levels of serotonin since childhood and present allergenic reactions. After the first Bowen move, the client felt the energy open and move upward throughout her whole body for the duration of the session.

During the remaining session the client had a sensation of many hands on her and saw a roadway of spiritual beings clearing past energies and previous karmic bonds. Afterwards she felt very relaxed and transformed.

Some people may be unable to relate to the above and as I said earlier different clients experience the healing in their unique way, some more physical and others more spiritual. Sometimes it is quit emotional.

Another recent client came to me suffering agonizing physical pain and little strength in her body. During the session she realized she held her mother’s agony in her own body. The muscles in her body held this emotional agony, which released during the session.

The client got off the healing table a different person and then felt a major cramp in her left hamstring. I did one more Bowen move and the cramp dissolved.

Roy: What is the Role of Meditation in Emotional Healing?

Michael: After over forty years of practicing different types of meditation, I have learned to hold steady when emotional reactions occur and stay present with the emotion and discomfort. I sense in my body the emotion clearing. As the emotion transforms over time, peace or bliss fills the previous places of discomfort.

We usually picture meditation as sitting still in silence. Meditation can also be active, which helps bring repressed emotions to the surface of our awareness.

Many meditative techniques require one to sit still with a silent mind. For most of us, stress in body and mind makes this difficult. Before we can access the stillness within, we need to let go of our tensions.

“Ten Active Meditations” scientifically designed by Osho also known as Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, an India mystic, who lived in the U.S. in the 80’s enable people to consciously express and experience repressed emotions.

Roy: What are Some Common Misconceptions about Emotional Healing?

Michael: 1. If we leave the pain buried in the past, then it has no effect on us. We believe the pain will be unbearable and we resist wanting to feel the abuse or trauma again. We carry the misconception that suppression is an easier way to cope.

The truth is that it takes more energy continuing to repress the pain than acknowledge, embrace it, and go through it. As the poet, Robert Frost, said, The only way out is through.

2. If we blame others for our pain, we can avoid taking responsibility. With this behavior we can avoid looking at the part we played and avoid healing ourselves. The fact remains we continue to carry the pain and in essence still have responsibility for our actions.

3. We may believe we have a right to continue bearing a grudge towards someone. The person doesn’t deserve my forgiveness. Maybe in the Laws of the Universe all of our purposes involve forgiving and being forgiven.

These misconceptions may be conscious or unconscious.

I hope you enjoyed this interview with Michael and that you’ll check out his softcover book when it is ready at Amazon mid-June and 0rder other versions here now at http://ow.ly/4AmJz Please feel free to share your comments.

Be sure to follow Michael tomorrow when the next stop on the Virtual Blog Tour is Katherine Owen who will be interviewing Michael on how to alleviate chronic fatigue, how to heal chronic pain, and how to feel safe as a sufferer of chronic fatigue syndrome. To visit that “stop” on the tour, go to http://www.a-spiritual-journey-of-healing.com/%20treatment-for-chronic-fatigue-syndrome.html

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How to Begin the Journey Home to Your True Self

Holistic medical doctor and bestselling author Roy Martina, M.D., offers his tips for how to move past self-sabotaging thoughts and find your Divine Essence.

Recently I gave a webinar called ‘Simple Spirituality’ where I spoke about how to tap into your real self and bring spirituality into your life on a daily basis. Before the webinar, we received hundreds of questions from listeners wanting to know how to solve ongoing issues they had with self-belief and self-sabotage. I received this question from one woman on the webinar, which I thought was such a great example of what so many people ask me in my workshops, I thought I would share her question and my reply with you here.

QUESTION:

“Help me to improve my self! I’d like to be better but I’m afraid to be wrong and inadequate! I don’t know WHY and I’m not able to eliminate the voice that “sentences” me!!! It is inside me!!!”

ROY’S REPLY:

The mistake most people make is to want to eliminate the voices in your head. These voices are not you. These are what I call “echoes” from the past. In the first 7 years of our life, we do not have a critical mind to protect us from the environment and everything said will be stored in our subconscious mind. Later, these become like sub-personalities and inner critics, trying to take us down. So the first step is to know this and to disassociate from the voices.

It’s important to know that it makes no sense to fight these voices. When they speak, say gently and softly in your head, “Thank you for reminding me who I am not.” Then follow this with a powerful statement such as, “I am a worthy person deserving a great life. I love and accept myself just the way I am!” There are many other variations you can come up with.

The second step is to know that you are a Divine being made of Divine essence. This is often referred to as Universal Unconditional Love. That is who you are at your core. You can see this Divine Essence expressed through you, when you have expressed yourself in moments of compassion, wisdom, intuition, kindness and love.

You need to remind yourself of who you really are. The best time I found to do this is just before I go to sleep. I recall moments of the day that I was stressed or emotional or negative or aggressive and reacted in ways that did not express my Divine Essence. Then, I relive those moments, imagining that I am in my power and I ask myself how would I react if I were in my power? I relive those moments exactly as I would had I been connected to my Divine Source—fully at peace, not taking things personally, without fear of rejection or criticism, speaking and expressing my truth and stating my boundaries.

By doing this each night, we are training our brain how to act from power, and to respond consciously instead of reacting based on my conditioning and my ego (our fear-based self). In this way, step-by-step, you are returning to being whole again. You are returning to the person you truly are instead of being an expression of the learned conditioning from the past. This is called deprogramming or unlearning. It is the path to return home, to be who you are!

Strength and good luck!

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Roy Martina is a holistic medical doctor with over 30 years experience helping people tap into their true selves and “cure the incurable” by understanding the connection between emotional balance and dis-ease. He is the author of over 40 books in Dutch and other languages. His bestselling book Emotional Balance: the path to inner peace and harmony has just been translated into English, and published by Hay House Publishers.

The book is coming to Amazon on March 15, 2011.

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